A World without Pants- A World with Equality
Ever wondered why it is said ‘Wearing pants in a relationship’. Back in the day, the only way you could tell a man from a woman is to see what they were wearing. If the person was wearing pants, it was a man and you could do serious business with him. On the contrary, if the person was wearing a dress, you did not bother with them. Thus, the person in a household who is dominant and makes a decision “wears the pants”
There is masculine and feminine. And then there is ‘Be a Man’.
More often than not we come across certain phrases like “man up”, “grow a pair” or “don’t be a p*ssy”. We hear these words when we don’t live up to the hypothetical benchmark set by masculinity. More than women, men are the receivers of these terms for the mere reason that men are supposed to be tough. And by tough, I mean invulnerable, aggressive and dominant.
The word ‘emotions’ simply doesn’t exist in the dictionary of a man, because this dictionary is handed over by society. From childhood, men are thought about how not to showcase their emotions, let alone be crying. This deliberate attempt to gulping down your emotions has jeopardized the human mind manifold.
Boys Don’t Cry
It all started a long time ago when men were boys. Since childhood, boys have been moulded in a way to believe that their emotions are their biggest nemesis. Over the years of constant suppression of emotions like loneliness, depression and pain, it all churns into aggressiveness and comes out in the most disastrous ways. Did you know, compared to girls, boys are more prone to learning disorders like ADHD and psychological disorders making life a bigger challenge for them? As adults, this results in binge drinking and more inclined towards suicide. If this is the cost to “be a man”, then the price we are paying is too high.
Adversely, men aren’t even cognizant to this issue. This oblivion leads them to be more violent, especially towards “easy” targets like women and children, thus validating the already existing leech of society- male dominance.
Don’t Buy Flowers; Do The Laundry.
As Sheryl Sandberg, an inspirational business leader says “There is no such thing as masculine and feminine skills; there are human skills.”
In the parallel universe, all men would identify as feminists. By definition, feminism is fundamentally about equality. Moreover, it means that gender is not an impairment to progress. It is silly of humans to bifurcate skills under masculine and feminine jobs. Through this, a pre-conceived mindset is established and moulded in a way that belittles either of the genders emotionally or physically. If only, to be a man or woman simply meant being human, treating everyone equally and not be biased on sexual orientation.
Masculinity is often confused with sex. A person’s sex is a natural formation of their biological characteristics. These characteristics in no way define the thinking and being of a person. Constant suppression of emotions is more brutal than physical damage. The trick here is to steer clear from these baseless assumptions.
If this isn’t human destruction, then what is?
*This article was first published at the Yellow Seed Content Solutions blog page.
